don't ask me... i don't know who i am anymore.

Depending on who you’re talking to, do you change into someone else? Are you a people pleaser? Feel like the only people who really get you are your family and close friends? Think people change their humor/attitude/language depending on who they’re with? I say bullshit to that.

I find these to be some of the most common questions when talking about personality types. This self-doubt is very common due to the fact that people do not know what their true personality type is. They believe they do. And if, in fact, they do know then why are they afraid to just be themselves? How can you not be yourself? And therein lies the oxymoron.

The answer to this confusion is that there are too many personality type theories and those silly free on-line personality type tests. These tests are nowhere near conclusive. People answer in untruthful ways to ascertain/ensure themselves that they are the “best“ type of person. Again, oxymoron (or just, well, you know…).

So why am I going on about this? Because there is only one theory of personality types that will undoubtedly give you the answer to who you are. The Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of scotts, clarks and rogers) is a viable theory of personality types based on the premise that there 3 characteristic perceptions of reality (that of the clarks, the scotts and the rogers). Everyone is one of three types. And though we all have some of each in us, it is the predominance of characteristics of one of the three which determines who you are.

For those of you whose heads are spinning in despair and confusion (“What the hell is she talking about?“) rather than curiosity, stay with me here. Knowledge of all three types will become clear and will clarify why people say and do the things they do, whether it’s your spouse, your boss, you’re bff…everyone.

So let’s simplify. The following is an excerpt from the ‘About’ page of the Wakefield Doctrine. Go here for a full explanation.

All people are born with a potential to experience the world in three distinct and characteristic ways. Depending on which, we say that a person is a clark or a scott or a roger.

When we say, ‘experience the world’ we don’t just mean things about you, we mean the way you see the world, the assumptions you make, how you feel about other people; all are in keeping with the description of your type. Not as difficult as it sounds.

Try this: if you are a roger that means that you know that world is based on rules and that people who know these rules gather in relationships and groups sort of like a herd of animals do, common interests in common. (Stay with me, now) As a roger, to your very soul you know that the universe is quantifiable, knowable, organized. It is entirely natural for you to see the things in the world that demonstrate this quality of being quantifiable, so you tend to like things in an orderly, traditional arrangement. You are naturally attracted to work or study that reflect this. rogers tend to be engineers, accountants, judges, historians, members of the clergy. Anything that is based on natural organization, you will find a roger.

The same applies to clarks and scotts. What our personality type is goes way beyond likes and dislikes, aptitudes and interests. ‘Who’ we are as personality types is demonstrated in what we do for work, what our idea of recreation is, who our friends are and what we reject the most in our daily lives. All in reflection, in support of our personality types: clark, scott or roger.

The other thing about the Wakefield Doctrine that we often hear is, “I read the description of the three personality types. Sometimes I think I am a roger and other times it is clear I must be a scott. That must mean your theory does not work on me.” The reason this happens is that we are all born with the qualities of all three personality types, clarks and scotts and rogers. With this potential, at some point in early childhood we settle on one of three, we become predominately a scott or a roger or a clark. The other two qualities do not go away, we always have them within and sometimes we will act like one of the other two types. So don’t worry too much if it seems you are disproving the Doctrine, roger.

The value of the Wakefield Doctrine is that once you can see the world ‘through the eyes’ of another, behavior becomes understandable.

So, where am I going with this? To answer the questions at the beginning of this post. You see, if you truly know who you are and who those around you are then the confusion will dissipate. Not only will you be free to be yourself but you will come to understand ‘who’ other people are and thus actually be able to predict how they will act in any given situation. The Doctrine is a viable, useful and fun tool. So go identify your friends, spouses, bosses… Run with it and come back and tell me how incredibly liberated you feel actually being yourself. No more “Was that really me?”

Oh yeah, almost forgot to mention: go here, here and here to learn more about clarks, scotts and rogers respectively. And do not try to fit in to which type you think is the best or you’ll be back to square one. No one type is better or worse than another.

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5 Responses to WAS THAT REALLY ME?

  1. clark says:

    Hey!! I’m the second person here…where the hell is everyone?

    Huh? where…

  2. Khalid Marzook says:

    Good stuff, as usual. keep ’em coming.

  3. clarkscottroger says:

    You are correct and the Reader would do well to pay attention…

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